Loneliness is not the same as solitude

Loneliness is not the same as solitude 

Why is it so?

Solitude is a state of isolation that has been chosen. For example, a person may seek solitude in order to reflect on life or to find peace.

On the other hand, loneliness is not chosen. It is a painful feeling of isolation that results from a lack of meaningful social connections. Statistics show that almost half of Americans aged 60 years and older feel lonely.

You can dispute the numbers, but what seems true is that this form of social isolation can be very dangerous as it can lead to depression and other mental health issues. If you think that loneliness could be, or could become, a serious issue for you, then please read on.

What is a way to think through this issue?

Take a look at the banner at the top of this post where I drew 3 concentric circles: family, friends and acquaintances. Take a moment to list

·      your family members

·      who is in your friendship circle

·      your acquaintances

This is not, and I repeat not, an exercise in coming up with big numbers. It’s about assessing the quality and depth of your social relationships.

Once finished, it will become an exercise in self-assessment, in which you have taken an honest look at your social connections. By taking that honest look you can start to assess the strength or weakness of your social connections. If you are happy with your assessment then that is great. However, it’s worth remembering that matters will change over time. On the other hand, if you are concerned for yourself then you have work to do. 

What is the remedy? 

The remedy is to build out your network of social connections. This is not easy to do, but a Retirement Coach can help you.

Please reach out to me:

Email: jon@64plus.com.au or Website: www.64plus.com.au